So. You messed up somebody’s pronouns.

It happens! Here’s a quick & easy guide for how to deal when you realize you’ve used the wrong pronouns for somebody. DO: Acknowledge the mistake, apologize briefly, and move on. Examples: “Oops, I mean ‘they,’ sorry. Anyway, as I was saying…” “Ah! Sorry. You’re right. They said…” (Mistakes happen! We get it! Everyone messes this upContinue reading “So. You messed up somebody’s pronouns.”

Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes

My middle-aged adult friend just announced they are a different gender than I thought they were, and asked me to use a new name and new pronouns for them. Why are they just realizing this now? They never seemed to react badly to their original name, gender, and pronouns before. Was it really bothering themContinue reading “Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes”