Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes

My middle-aged adult friend just announced they are a different gender than I thought they were, and asked me to use a new name and new pronouns for them. Why are they just realizing this now? They never seemed to react badly to their original name, gender, and pronouns before. Was it really bothering themContinue reading “Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes”

How to use gender-inclusive language

I originally wrote this for an internal blog at work, and my colleagues and friends requested I repost it publicly to be shared more widely. I’ve adapted the original post with some minor updates and stripped out the stuff that was specific to the workplace. Big thanks to my colleagues Tallulah and Basil for theirContinue reading “How to use gender-inclusive language”

Your adult child just came out as non-binary. Now what?

Most resources about non-binary or genderqueer people coming out are aimed at teens and their parents. Resources for parents of non-binary adults are, unfortunately, sparse. I’ve pulled together the ones I’ve been able to find. I’m using “non-binary” as an umbrella term for “identities outside of ‘male’ and ‘female.’” Your child may use a moreContinue reading “Your adult child just came out as non-binary. Now what?”

What does Qabala have to do with Tarot?

Qabala is the “operating system” of most modern Tarot decks. Mathematically, it works out very neatly: There are 22 cards in the Major Arcana, and 22 paths connecting the spheres on the Tree. The Minor Arcana features the numbers one through ten, and there are ten spheres on the Tree. There are four designations ofContinue reading “What does Qabala have to do with Tarot?”

Get the f*ck back to sleep with this brain-calming, magickal technique

My therapist once told me, “Anxiety is the flip side of creativity.” I think about that statement a lot, because it really hit home. My brain is a pinball machine, constantly zooming from one thought to the next, free-associating like wild. It makes me great at brainstorming and planning for worst-case scenarios, but unfortunately itContinue reading “Get the f*ck back to sleep with this brain-calming, magickal technique”

Tracking your daily practice: There’s an app for that. (Yes, really.)

As most pagans practicing with any degree of seriousness will tell you, daily practice is paramount for developing magickal skill and discipline. Even if you start with just 5 minutes of meditation a day, committing to self-work on a regular basis will make your magick stronger and help you deepen your relationship with all yourContinue reading “Tracking your daily practice: There’s an app for that. (Yes, really.)”

This weird office tool makes learning new spiritual concepts easier

Years ago, I bought an office tool I thought I’d use once in awhile for random creative projects, but it turned out to be a critical component of my spiritual practice. This simple object has improved my ability to learn and retain new things, including chakra colors and tones, Qabala spheres, basic grounding/centering/shielding, chakra cleansingContinue reading “This weird office tool makes learning new spiritual concepts easier”

Tarot tip: Use your phone’s wallpaper

In January, my partner and I committed to doing monthly, single-card Tarot draws for ourselves. We’re both working to live our lives more intentionally, and this seemed a good way to keep some guidance in the back of our brains for the duration of the month. When we decided to do this, one of ourContinue reading “Tarot tip: Use your phone’s wallpaper”