Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes

My middle-aged adult friend just announced they are a different gender than I thought they were, and asked me to use a new name and new pronouns for them. Why are they just realizing this now? They never seemed to react badly to their original name, gender, and pronouns before. Was it really bothering themContinue reading “Itchy sweaters: An ally’s guide to understanding late-in-life pronoun and gender changes”

Queer Qabala: Soon to be a book!

You may have noticed this blog has been a bit quiet since the end of last year. I have a good excuse: I’ve been working on a book! I’m pleased to say that Queer Qabala: Nonbinary, Genderfluid, Omnisexual Mysticism & Magick is coming to bookstores July 8, 2022, published by Llewellyn. I expect it’ll beContinue reading “Queer Qabala: Soon to be a book!”

ICYMI: Major Arqueerna 2020

I started this website almost exactly one year ago, and I’m so proud of everything it has become. I’ve kept up blogging every week (with a couple exceptions here and there), and I hope I’ve provided you with some helpful resources and ideas for your life and magick. I’m going to take a little hiatusContinue reading “ICYMI: Major Arqueerna 2020”

Your adult child just came out as non-binary. Now what?

Most resources about non-binary or genderqueer people coming out are aimed at teens and their parents. Resources for parents of non-binary adults are, unfortunately, sparse. I’ve pulled together the ones I’ve been able to find. I’m using “non-binary” as an umbrella term for “identities outside of ‘male’ and ‘female.’” Your child may use a moreContinue reading “Your adult child just came out as non-binary. Now what?”

Yule 2020: Haven’t we been doing this all #&$%ing year?

For those who celebrate the Wheel of the Year, Yule is a time of quiet, introspection, and solitude. It’s when we embrace a hygge lifestyle: one of less busy-ness and fewer social commitments, and more cosiness and rest. It’s a delightfully counter-cultural notion within a society that values productivity and busy-ness all year ’round. TheContinue reading “Yule 2020: Haven’t we been doing this all #&$%ing year?”

What does Qabala have to do with Tarot?

Qabala is the “operating system” of most modern Tarot decks. Mathematically, it works out very neatly: There are 22 cards in the Major Arcana, and 22 paths connecting the spheres on the Tree. The Minor Arcana features the numbers one through ten, and there are ten spheres on the Tree. There are four designations ofContinue reading “What does Qabala have to do with Tarot?”

“Queering Your Craft” is a perfectly queer intro to witchcraft (review)

Lately I’ve been reading a lot of “witchcraft 101” books, to update the reading list for my coven’s new members. I’m thankful to see so many of the new books in this category are less problematic than “the classics,” and many go beyond the basics and include brief overviews of a lot of the differentContinue reading ““Queering Your Craft” is a perfectly queer intro to witchcraft (review)”

5 ways to take care of yourself during a contentious election

Whether you live in the United States or not, you’re probably going to be holding your breath in the coming days and weeks to see how the national elections shake out. There is a lot at stake, particularly for anyone who isn’t a cisgender, heterosexual, abled, white man, or for anyone who doesn’t want toContinue reading “5 ways to take care of yourself during a contentious election”